Back To School Nostalgia!

It’s back to school time and that always makes me a little nostalgic. I always loved getting new notebooks and pens, and a new outfit for school. A fresh start. To me September is still that time. Though I’m no longer in school I still think of September as a New Year – maybe even more than January. It’s the change in seasons that does it for me. With the close of Summer, Fall comes softly in. Mornings are crisp, days are shorter and the leaves start to turn. A new Season makes me reevaluate what I’m doing, how I’m doing it and what is really important in my life. New beginnings. I am more motivated to start new ventures and set new goals. I’m excited to see what’s next.

How can you reevaluate what’s important to you in your life? What might your goals be for this new season?

Ask yourself these questions:

What are my goals for the Fall?
Be honest. Remember these are your goals and they are as individual as you are. It might be change jobs, lose weight, go on a holiday, get married or make more money. It could be to move to a new place, or out of the country. It might be to go traveling.

Taking each goal ask yourself,

Why do I want this goal?
And what does it give me?
And how will achieving this goal leave me feeling?
Then ask why do I want that?

These questions all help you see why you want this goal and why it’s important. Once you understand your motivations behind your goals you are more likely to achieve them.  And post your goals where you can see them daily. Research shows that when you look at your goals daily you are more likely to achieve them.

Sometimes when you want to achieve your goals you need support. Someone who can help you clarify what you really want and then provide accountability and cheer leading to get there. As a coach I can help you work through this process and then define an action plan to achieve your goals. Email me at mary@mlkcoaching.com and we can chat.

Here’s to an amazing Autumn!

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